The transfer game reached absurd levels of curiosity when Mike Gundy restricted quarterback Wes Lunt from 37 schools and three whole conferences.

Gundy is going for the estate, the 50-percent revenue split and the dogs in this divorce.

Mediation is necessary. After all, there were high hopes for this union when that National Letter of Intent came through the Oklahoma State football fax machine in February 2012. But the quarterback wants to play, and the coach doesn’t want to lose an edge. That’s why we’ve called “1-800-No-Fault-Transfer” to help provide some clarity — and a few guidelines — to this split. Future transfers, please call. No-Fault-Transfer has sought divorce mediation (or just some general thoughts about transfers) from North Texas’ Dan McCarney, Fresno State’s Tim DeRuyter and friend of the SEC Houston Nutt.

Time to hash this out in a stale conference room over bad coffee.

Gundy can have the Big 12/Southern Miss restrictions: All three coaches from the mediation counsel say preventing players from signing with a team on your future schedule is widely accepted by coaches and often the players leaving. “Players know your program inside and out,” McCarney said.

That’s why No-Fault-Transfer will allow the restrictions on the Big 12, and also Southern Miss, because of the precedent it sets.

It’s not that a player shouldn’t be allowed to transfer to a school where he has a relationship with the coach — which Lunt would have at Southern Miss under former Cowboys offensive coordinator Todd Monken.

But Gundy has ushered three offensive coordinators into head coaching jobs, and he probably doesn’t want them providing a safe landing strip for departing players. For settlement purposes, these restrictions keep Gundy happy.

Lunt gets the other 27 schools: The only SEC school on Oklahoma State’s immediate schedule is Mississippi State in 2013. No tangible reason to keep him from the SEC.

Perhaps the Cowboys will meet a Pac-12 school in the Buffalo Wild Wings Bowl one day and Lunt will lead his school to a come-from-behind win because he knew all the Cowboys’ secrets. But that’s doubtful. He can go to the Pac-12.

And the Eastern Michigan ban — well, it’s Eastern Michigan. Let the man Swoop if that’s what he wants!

Lunt should have reasonable flexibility. And Gundy had his eyes on another quarterback, which always plays in the quarterback’s favor in transfer mediation.

“As a coach, you’ve invested so much time in a player that you don’t want to see them leave,” Nutt said. “But if they aren’t the right fit or aren’t going to get the opportunity, you still want to see them do well.”

By placing nearly 40 restrictions on Lunt, Gundy probably doesn’t want him to leave: No-Fault-Transfer can’t speak for Gundy, who was unavailable for comment, but maybe the man remembers he had something special in Lunt, who has three years of eligibility left (one more than probable starter Clint Chelf). He has a thing for quick releases, if only on the field.

Does Gundy want to stay with Lunt?

“Maybe [a heavy restriction plan] is a way to try to discourage transfers from leaving,” McCarney said.

Added Nutt: “That’s like saying, ‘You’re going to be here, buddy.’ ”

Harsh restrictions could actually give a player more incentive to leave, almost out of spite, but if Lunt doesn’t like his visits to Illinois and Louisville, then maybe the two can reunite ambicably.

Probably not.

In splitting of assets, the coach always wins: Gundy can keep his $3 million-plus salary, his one Big 12 title and his 67 wins.

Lunt can keep the Cowboys shirt and cleats he got as a freshman, along with the handshakes on his way out.

Clearly Gundy gets the better deal. You didn’t think players would actually get a financial cut, did you? At least Lunt keeps future professional earnings.

Transferring can be tough, yet Nutt sees the list of transfers grow every offseason. He knows exactly why.

“As soon as the playing time doesn’t happen, especially if it’s a highly recruited player, there’s pressure from back home. ‘Those coaches are messing your son up, you better get out of there.’ ”

The empathy phase: In one season, Gundy and Lunt shared eight wins and 1,108 yards.

They can do more without each other.

Gundy can’t lift the NCAA rule that forces Lunt and other transfers wanting more playing time to sit out a year. The rule often handcuffs players, but as DeRuyter points out, the alternative would handcuff schools because programs would get poached all day. Even in the messiest transfer divorces, both sides still can win.

“You just have to be clear about your intentions on both sides and, if someone is better off elsewhere, hope for the best,” DeRuyter said.

Article source: http://www.cbssports.com/collegefootball/story/22285170/okla-states-gundy-wins-in-messy-transfer-divorce-because-he-can

A lesbian couple in Allen say they are targets of discrimination after a Collin County judge ruled they could no longer live together because of a morality clause in the 2011 divorce papers one of the women signed.

The clause, common in divorce cases in Texas and other states, prevents

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The man was found in Lyon’s eighth arrondissement at around 8pm on the same
day. A Lyon prosecuting source said that the man had “admitted being
the murderer” but had not given many more details.

The wife was finally heard by prosecutors on Sunday, providing them with their
details of her troubled relationship with her ex-husband.

In 2010, the father had attacked his then wife, leading to his rights of
access being withdrawn.

This was the first weekend since then that the man had been allowed to have
the boy and girl with him without a third party. The father has been living
in France for 10 years and married his French wife in 2005.

The couple had been involved in a further legal dispute over the flat, which
is worth around £100,000. “There was a lot of friction because the
wife wanted the flat so that the money could be divided up, while he wanted
to keep the house,” said another investigating source.

Ahmed Benguedda, a former neighbour of the couple, told the news agency that
the couple had divorced “two or three years ago”. The father, who
was unemployed, had drinking problems and was violent towards his wife, Mr
Benguedda, who still lives locally, claimed. He added that the children were “well-balanced”
and often played with his seven-year-old daughter.

The wife won custody of the children following the divorce and went to live in
the Isère region of France, to the south-east of Lyon.

The man will be brought before Lyon prosecutors, when he is expected to be
formally charged with the murders.

A Foreign Office spokesman said the matter was being investigated. “We
are aware of the reports and we are urgently looking into them,” said a
spokesman.

Article source: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/france/10067536/France-killing-divorce-battle-father-confesses-to-slitting-childrens-throats.html

By Jeff Landers for GalTime.com

As a divorcing woman, you are no doubt looking forward to having the whole divorce process over with, so you can move ahead to your new life. If you’re like most women, you probably think the past few months (or years!) have been filled with enough emotional upheaval, not to mention legal and financial hassle, for a lifetime, and you’ll be very glad to have it all behind you… at last.

Of course, life as a single woman will bring new responsibilities, including all the issues surrounding your personal finances. Even today, it is surprisingly common for wives to remain uninvolved in family finances. If that was the dynamic in your marriage, then it may now seem quite intimidating to face all the budgeting and bill paying, in addition to managing investments and debt, and saving for education, retirement and other long-term goals.

However, there is a bright side.

Throughout the divorce process, it’s likely you’ve become intimately familiar with your marital financial situation. Now, as your divorce settlement agreement is finalized, you can take that know-how forward as you plan for a secure financial future.

Here are a few important practical steps to help you get on the road to financial stability after your divorce:

Do the financial housekeeping.
If you changed your name after the divorce, you’ll need a new Social Security Card, driver’s license, passport and credit cards. You’ll also need to notify your bank, utilities, insurance companies, credit card companies, the motor vehicle department, your children’s school(s), etc., about any name or address changes. Titles on all houses and vehicles will have to be modified and recorded with lending institutions, and you will also need to update beneficiaries on your life insurance, 401k, pensions and IRA accounts.

To keep all these details straight, follow this checklist of financial tasks that need prompt attention post-divorce:

1. Obtain a copy of your certified divorce decree, and make extra copies so that you’re able to provide them promptly when needed.

2. Close joint credit accounts.

3. Remove your husband’s name, and/or change your name/address, on all remaining accounts, including:
· Bank, brokerage and investment accounts
· Credit cards
· Driver’s license, automobile title, registration and insurance policies
· Employer’s records
· IRS records
· Life, health, homeowner’s and disability insurance policies
· Post office (Remember to have your mail forwarded, too.)
· Professional licenses
· Social security card
· Title to real property
· Utility bills

4. Research your health insurance options and apply for COBRA, if necessary.

5. If your divorce decree requires a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO):
Provide the QDRO to appropriate banks, brokerages, pension plan advisor, 401k administrators, etc. (Even better, have this step completed before your divorce is finalized!), a quitclaim or warranty deed: Make certain the appropriate documents are executed and recorded. Also, the transfer of title to property (automobiles, boats, etc.): Sign and deliver the necessary documents to complete the transfer.

6. Open a new bank account. Consider establishing direct deposit or income withholding for child support, spousal support and/or alimony payments.

7. Open a new credit card account and request a copy of your credit report.

8. Disinherit your husband. Write and execute a new will, trusts, medical directives and/or living wills and powers of attorney. Don’t forget to change the beneficiaries on your life insurance, 401k, pension and IRA accounts.

9. Establish a system to keep track of all child support made/received, alimony payments made/received, medical expenses, etc.

Establish good credit in your own name.
Good credit is the foundation of your financial future. Without it, it can be very difficult to get a bank loan, and even hard to manage regular household expenses. Get a copy of your credit report (AnnualCreditReport.com offers them free of charge), and address any inaccuracies it contains. Then, if you are employed and/or already have credit cards in your name, building your credit is relatively straightforward: use your cards regularly, pay off the balance in full and on time each month, and watch your score rise!

However, if you’re not employed and don’t already have a credit history, the process may not be as simple. A few years ago, new federal regulations made it difficult for women with little or no income to establish credit on their own. The Credit Card Accountability, Responsibility and Disclosure (CARD) Act of 2009 was designed to protect consumers from getting into financial trouble by running up credit card debt they can’t afford to pay, but unfortunately, this legislation also makes it difficult for “at-home” spouses without paid work to obtain credit on their own.

After a public outcry, the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau recently proposed changes to rectify these unintended consequences. When enacted, the modifications will allow non-working spouses to apply for credit in their own name based upon shared household income.

So, be prepared. Securing credit may require more than simply filling out an application or making a single phone call.

Develop a comprehensive financial plan for the future.
If you had a Lifestyle Analysis prepared during your divorce, you should now have a very clear understanding of what funds came into the marriage (income) and what funds went out (expenses). Use this as a basis for developing a budget going forward. You’ll need to address both short-term (day-to-day expenses, monthly utilities, mortgage, car payments, etc.) and long-term (college tuition, retirement, travel) financial needs.

If your divorce settlement includes any lump sum payments (i.e., for alimony, pension rollovers, sale of a vacation home), you’ll also need to develop a sound strategy for managing those assets. Establishing –and then sticking to – a financial plan is essential, both for financial stability and peace of mind.

Seek help from an experienced financial advisor.
All the fundamental components of a sound financial plan – creating a budget, investing, retirement planning, outlining your goals and aspirations, saving for college, choosing life insurance, etc. – should be completed under the guidance of a financial advisor.

Be sure to find a financial professional with expertise and experience helping divorced women, specifically. The financial needs of divorced women are very different from those of a married couple, and you should have an advisor who completely understands those differences and knows how to properly manage their money and invest on their behalf.

In addition to an experienced financial planner, I believe most post-divorce women can benefit from the assistance of:

· An estate-planning attorney to work with your financial advisor to help with your estate planning needs and the legal issues concerning your will, medical directives, trusts, charitable giving, etc.
· A therapist or counselor to help you cope with the emotional challenges of starting your life as a single woman.
· A vocational counselor to help you re-enter the job market, or even start your own business.

Enjoy your new life!
With your divorce in the rear-view mirror, and these important steps completed, you’ll be well-positioned for a secure financial future. It’s likely you will find, as most women do, that it’s empowering to make financial decisions on your own, and to be the one who’s in control of your financial portfolio. Rest assured: The road ahead belongs to you!

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Jeff Landers is the President and Founder of Bedrock Divorce Advisors, a divorce financial strategy firm which exclusively advises affluent women throughout the United States before, during and after divorce. Jeff is the author of the new book, Divorce: Think Financially, Not Emotionally – What Women Need To Know About Securing Their Financial Future Before, During, And After Divorce, which provides women going through the crisis of divorce with the tools they need to secure their financial future. He is donating 50% of all book profits to Bedrock Divorce Fund for Abused Women, Inc. For your free article on Understanding How Assets Get Divided in A Divorce click here.

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