Last Friday’s quandary was simple and direct: how to keep grandparents in children’s lives following a divorce?
Readers had many success stories, and from them, I tried to pull out the best, most workable moments of advice — and ones that didn’t depend on having a close relationship with a soon-to-be former in-law to begin with. “Have a civil divorce” also seemed like the kind of advice that’s easily given, but not always easily taken. Realistically, in some ideal, perfectly friendly divorce with shared custody and everything as good as it can possibly be, this isn’t even a question.
But what if things are not so rosy? The goal is to keep the children and grandparents in the family regardless of the parents’ differences. Readers’ suggestions for getting there, tidily tucked into a nice neat list for what may not be such an ordered endeavor, follow.
1. Figure out your own relationship with your ex’s parents. Golf Widow and Erda are lucky enough to have close relationships with their children’s paternal grandmothers and advocated keeping it that way, if possible. Visits to your ex’s parents? If you’re comfortable, go with it. Coffee, e-mails, texts are great. But if you’re
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Article source: http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/05/17/navigating-relationships-with-grandparents-in-a-divorce/
The enormous well-being and happiness dividends of a strong, intimate relationship can be erased by the damage that can occur when a partner is lost through death or a difficult breakup. The death of a spouse, in particular, can literally be a killer, especially if the husband is the surviving spouse.
The end of a marriage can be devastating for health, says Debra Umberson, a sociologist at the University of Texas at Austin.
“What we see is that divorce for both men and women decreases happiness and increases the chances of dying in the next year,” says Linda Waite, a sociologist and demographer at the University of Chicago. “The hit seems to be pretty substantial for both sexes for divorce.”
Women, however, may deal with divorce better than men, and they are clearly better survivors than men in dealing with the death of a spouse. Divorced men are much more likely to remarry and regain the benefits of marriage.
Gender roles are changing and behavioral differences are likely narrowing for younger people in marriages. But the impact of divorce and widowhood on older people is based on gender roles established decades ago.
Gender influence
“When you think about the things that are really challenges to health,
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Former hand surgeon Michael Brown, his estranged wife, Rachel, and a platoon of lawyers crowded into state district court Tuesday for the first of two days of hearings related to their pending and bitter divorce.
The first day of the hearing dealt with issues involving their two children. Michael Brown complained that he has not been able to see his children – an 8-year-old daughter and 5-year-old son – as often as he is legally allowed and asked that court-ordered supervision during visitation be ended.
The second day is expected to deal with property matters. Rachel Brown’s attorneys have complained that her husband is not disclosing all the assets that would be considered community property.
Michael Brown testified that the presence of supervisors and armed security guards interferes with his visitation and intimidates the children.
“This is horrible for the kids,” he testified. “It confuses them. They don’t understand why all these people are around. Stop the supervision. It’s gone on long enough.”
Domestic quarrel
Michael Brown was acquitted of felony assault last year in connection with a 2010 domestic quarrel at their home. Rachel Brown claimed she was struck by her husband during an angry and sudden outburst. Facing her again in court Tuesday, he
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Article source: http://www.chron.com/news/houston-texas/article/Browns-argue-over-child-visitation-on-first-day-3561092.php
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By Carli Eli
Whether your source of news comes from online media, TV or the latest tabloid, it’s hard to ignore the media hype behind celebrity weddings and divorces. A few years ago, we gave our celebrity couples a few years of matrimonial bliss before they called it quits. Nowadays, divorces are being filed after 72 days or even 72 hours and as a result we have become immune to the negative repercussions associated with divorce. What message are we sending to the young and the old? According to divorce.com, nearly 50% of marriages in America file for divorce and that number is only increasing.
However, the latest research claims divorce rates among Latino adults are lower than those among whites and African Americans. But interestingly enough, a Pew study tracking interracial marriages found that divorce rates are higher for interracial couples. One study conducted a decade ago found that mixed-race couples had a 41% chance of separation or divorce, compared to a 31% chance for those who married within their race.
There’s no question that relationships are hard and quite debilitating at times, but one would think having a partner to face life’s challenges with is better than
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Article source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/voto-latino/divorce-a-necessary-evil-_b_1510731.html
That movie was a funny and sad depiction of Italian immigrants only one generation ago, when Southern Europe could seem as poor, backward and needy as Africa or parts of Eastern Europe and the Middle East do today.
Now, of course, Italy is a magnet for immigrants from all over: Albanians, Croats, Senegalese, Bangladeshis, Egyptians, Syrians and Tunisians. For the world’s frightened and dispossessed, Italy beckons — and repels — with the same shimmer of unattainable wealth and impenetrable privilege as Britain, Germany or France. Unlike those nations, however, Italy was never much of a colonial power; the Impero Italiano in places like Eritrea and Libya failed to achieve the same kind of power or durability. Until recently, Italy’s culture was far more homogeneous than that of those other European nations, and so was its literary fiction.
That has changed, but it hasn’t always been noticed from afar.
“Divorce Islamic Style,” a new novel by Amara Lakhous, is a delightful way to set the record straight, a whimsical and at times heartbreaking look at the Muslim immigrants who work
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Article source: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/13/books/review/divorce-islamic-style-by-amara-lakhous.html
WWE star John Cena filed for divorce from his wife of 3 years, Liz Cena. According to TMZ.com, John Cena cited the marriage to his high school sweetheart was irretrievably broken. Regardless of the prenuptial agreement the two signed in 2009, Liz Cena has hired prominent attorney Raymond Rafool, who also represented Linda Hogan in her divorce from former heavyweight wrestling champion Hulk Hogan. Liz Cena claims that she is entitled to monetary gains because she stood by John Cena and supported his endeavors over the last 14 years. It should be noted that the movie and wrestling celebrity did approach his wife with a pre-divorce settlement, but she refused to sign it.
As a wrestling fan for the last 20 years, I don’t see anything good coming from the situation. Based on past divorce proceedings between high profile wrestlers and their wives, John Cena can be getting into a world of hurt much larger than that of a WWE ring.
Cena just has to look towards his childhood idol Hulk Hogan for an example. Hogan was a multi-millionaire at the top of the world, when his wife blindsided him with divorce
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NEW YORK (Reuters) – Tables have turned in U.S. divorce courts with more women paying their former husbands alimony and child support than ever before, according to U.S. lawyers.
As women climb higher up the career ladder and outpace their exes in salary, when love goes wrong and marriages break up they are being compelled to contribute to the livelihood of their former spouses.
And some are not happy about it.
More than half, 56 percent, of divorce lawyers across the United States have seen an increase in mothers paying child support in the last three years and 47 percent have noted a hike in the number of women paying alimony, according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.
“It shows that women have really moved up financially and that in many instances they are the major bread winners in a lot of
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Wondering if it’s possible to stay on your ex’s health insurance after divorce? Here’s what you need to know, from divorce financial strategist Jeffrey A. Landers, the founder of Bedrock Divorce Advisors. Have questions? Ask in the comments.
It may be a bitter pill to swallow, but the answer to this question is “No.” Once divorced, you cannot stay on your ex’s health insurance –- but your children can and probably should (although who will pay the premiums might be a topic of discussion). After the divorce is finalized, you (the non-employee spouse) can qualify for COBRA coverage, but remember: COBRA is temporary and lasts only up to 36 months.
If you’re divorcing, my advice would be to get your own health insurance as soon as possible because if you develop a condition while on COBRA, a new insurance plan may see it as a pre-existing condition and either not insure you or only do so with much higher premiums. (Of course, the Supreme Court is now scrutinizing Obama’s healthcare legislation, so stay tuned. The way health insurance companies view pre-existing conditions may change.)
Maintaining
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Article source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/07/divorce-questions-health-insurance_n_1480138.html
